Wait, what?! Is it really already the end of 2016? Man, that happened so fast!
I know many people are currently complaining about 2016 having been a very bad year in a lot of ways. And it’s true, the world has seen a lot of tragedy, death and sorrow in these 12 months that lie behind us. But while I do acknowledge the bad, I don’t want to focus on the negative things. Because focusing on the bad in the world will only make me miserable and when I’m miserable, I can do absolutely nothing to try and change them!
What I do want to do in 2017 is try to take some of my personal negative emotions and habits and try to turn them into something positive. Because if we all tried to focus on happiness, love and understanding a little bit more, I’m convinced this world would be a whole lot better already.
So, instead of going for the classic New Year’s Resolutions I took a look at my life, my choices and my habits to try and find out what I could do to become a better person.
More communicating, less sulking
Communication is key – that much is known. But I realized this year that I tend to shut down on communicating whenever I’m hurt or the topic is too uncomfortable for me. I even get really petty sometimes when I feel like my counterpart should just magically know how I’m feeling and of course, he doesn’t. How could he? And I realized, that is the absolute worst way to go about problems. So my resolution is to just say whatever’s on my mind, what’s bothering me, because the people around me can’t know something’s wrong if I don’t tell them! And my problems surely won’t magically go away if I silently sulk about them for days, either.
Forgive and don’t resent
Another flaw of mine is that I tend to be really petty and resentful over tiny things that don’t go my way. And the conclusion I’ve come to is that these kinds of feelings are just completely useless. They only fill me with negative energy that slowly transpires into the other aspects of my life and just makes me and everyone around me miserable. I don’t need those negative vibes in 2017!
I need to be more aware while going through life. I realized I tend to wrap myself up inside my own little bubble and ignore everyone around me, only focusing on me and my own problems. I want to be more aware of what happens to the people I love and surround myself with, I want to be more empathetic and be the friend, family member or lover they deserve. Because it’s not always all about me – and I need to remember that.
If there’s one thing my boyfriend has taught me, it’s that I’m really judgmental sometimes. So often I said something snarky or really just plain mean about someone I didn’t know very well but in my head had already labeled as weird or not worthy of my time… only to be completely schooled by him simply introducing me to these persons and me realizing they were actually really nice people. I strive to be open like that, to just embrace every person the way they are without judging – it’s a really valuable trait.
I am a reluctant person. It may not look like it, but it takes me a while to get accustomed to new situations – be it new people, places or ideas. It may just be my personality but I’ve always been very cautious and I think that has held me back from experiencing amazing things way too many times. I want to change that. I want to trust more – trust in people, but also in the universe, to guide me and keep me safe to experience the life I was meant to live.
So, these are my New Year’s resolutions for 2017. It’s only five, but I think they will keep me busy for the next 12 months – at least. Probably for the rest of my life, too!
What are your New Year’s resolutions? Tell me in the comments!